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Does My Vagina Look Normal?

Does my vagina look normal, is a question asked by trans and natal women the world round, and quite likely for centuries, indeed there are books, plays, entire monolouges devoted to the vagina.

Given the Internet, men's magazines and other media exposure, we are now seeing the vagina more and more. And this is a wonderful thing, because for too long we have lived in a phallo-centric world, and the vagina has oft-times been feared, misunderstood, and even demonized.

But even with this new found appreciattion for the vagina it does not always get the accurate portrayal that it should.

What we are now seeing are these idealized images put forth in men's magazines and porn of what our vagina's should look like. And to conform to these images many of will seek labiaplasty, hoodectomies, or other cosmetic surgeries so that we can fit in with this perceived norm.

As stated trans and natal women both question whether their vaginas look "normal". But for post operative transwomen the situation is exacerbated.

Due to their gender dysphoria many transwomen may never have been sexually intimate with a female, and thus may not have ever seen a genetic vagina. Of the vaginas that they may have seen, they may have only seen the surgically modified, photoshopped, airbrushed ones profferred by the media.

To compound their fear, many post op transwomen may wonder if their vaginas will be appealing, acceptable, and or convincing to men that they plan to be intimate with. Given that some post op women are deep stealth and do not always divulge their past, this issue becomes more pressing.

I always say that vaginas are like snow flakes, or fingerprints, with no two being identical. The odds that your vagina will look exactly like the next women are astronomical. Your labia majora, the  outer labia, the larger lips of your vagina will differ, as will your labia minora, the inner labia. The size of your clitoris will vary, as will your pubic mound or mons pubis. My pubic mound  is fatty due to the amount of adipose or fatty tissue I have in my pubic region, your's may not be.

Much as  the amount that you will lubricate when aroused or your orgasmic capacity will vary, so too will the appearance of your vagina.

There are many in the transcommunity, both male and female  who will attempt to make us feel bad about our personal decision to have  gender reassignment surgery. There are those who will speak ill of our surgical results. If you truly feel a need to have further surgery on your vagina, by all means do so, but by no means feel compelled to do so because others have lead you to believe that your vagina isn't normal.

For the edification of the reader here is a link to photos of natal vaginas.